How do I protect my energy?
I protect my energy by not interacting with everyone or reacting to everything. I think it’s amazing that we can choose what and who we interact with. I know that if someone isn’t fulfilling me then I don’t need to put my time or energy into that person; it doesn’t mean that I’m not going to respect them or be kind to them, I’m just not going to put my energy into that.
I never used to think much about this, but lately, and as I’m getting older and experiencing different things and living more life, you really only want to surround yourself with good energy. Don’t get me wrong, there are times when I get annoyed and just want to lose my cool. People can really test you, but then I remember to take a minute and center myself, and ask myself ‘okay does this really need a reaction?’. I know that sounds super chill, but it's something I really try to do when I’ve hit a point where I just can’t take it.
Before, I used to prove people wrong and be like “that’s not true, this person doesn’t even know me…”, Now I just don’t care. Not everything deserves a reaction and I've definitely learned that over the last couple of years.
Another way I protect my energy is by setting boundaries. I’m a picky person, especially when it comes to people. I feel setting boundaries is a way of protecting yourself, and making a choice to not accept less than you deserve.
Communicating my boundaries is vital, and it's important for me to communicate them clearly. I don't want people to feel threatened. It's more about communicating responsibly and getting across boundaries that are key for me in my life. My mum always tells me that it's not what you say, it's how you say it, so I try to make a cautious effort to use kinder words when speaking to people.
It's one thing to say you have boundaries and it's another to really communicate what they are. And communication is important, in relationships and just life.
My whole thing is: if I’m being a good person and I know I’m being kind to people, someone else's opinion or perspective of who they think I am isn’t going to change the way I present myself, because I know I’m trying to be the best I can be.
I’m just so adamant about only having good energy around me. Life is too short to be spending it with people who drain you and are just toxic. I got no time for negative energy, it can politely walk out the door.
Social media is such a huge part of our lives, and as much as it can be a blessing when it comes to connecting with people and starting a business, it can be extremely draining and toxic, and sometimes you need a break.
When we were in the peak of lockdown, and my phone would run out of battery, I wouldn’t put it on charge straight away. We were all at home so it’s not like we were going out and I’d need access to my phone. I’d go hours before I would put it on charge, and I purposely did that because I didn’t want to be glued to my phone all day looking at social media.
I am here to do the best I can, and live my life to the fullest. I like to set goals and work towards them. I’m approaching my mid-20s and I’m at a place where I’m just focused on creating the best life I can for myself, helping my family and thriving in every aspect of life, and anything that is going to throw me off the track is not worth my time.
Right now, I’m learning how to not let negative energy affect me and learning how to balance everything. Surrounding yourself with good energy to me is so important when it comes to living a happy and healthy life.