What about Hinge?

This isn’t particularly going to be a long read, but just like all the other blog posts, it’s important for me to express how this made me feel. 

I don’t know where to start with this, it’s weird. Like I’ve got so much to say and nothing to say all at the same time. These dating apps are something else, I’ll just say that - like you never know what you’re going to get, or what cheesy line or message the guy is going to throw at you. I literally open the app, see a message and am like “nope”, and then close it. 

“let’s reschedule for another time”. This is a message I got from a guy that I was talking to on Hinge for about 3 weeks, and for those who don’t know Hinge is a dating app. I’d heard a few success stories so I thought I’d give it a go. At the start it was fine, we were getting to know each other, asking those general questions, but then things started taking a turn and I got the feeling that he just wanted to get me into bed. Everything became an innuendo and while I can appreciate and laugh a good innuendo, when it’s every message, it just becomes a joke. 

We decided on a day to meet up and let me tell you, I’ve never had such a hard time trying to organise a date, especially a first date. The date didn’t even happen and there was so much freaking commotion.

When I got this message I didn’t know what to make of it. It’s like he just gave up because the plans in his head didn't involve getting dinner and or going out for a few drinks. I wasn’t upset. I just thought “wow”, and more than anything was disappointed. I didn’t even bother replying because what was the point? As much as I thought about what I could and would say, he didn’t leave me much choice but to leave him on read. 

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, I think it’s just part of my nature and it always has been, but it gets tiring when the effort and communication isn't reciprocated. Like I’m a good person, and I always end up feeling bad. Like why? 

The biggest thing I’ve found is that there’s no communication and that they are flaky. I’m always the one putting in effort and I get nothing back, and I’m so over it. 

With this specific experience, it just amazed me just how quickly things changed. You know in my mind, I was like yep after work, just meet me at my office, I was looking cute and then just like that he told me he’ll be too tired to meet me and have dinner.

But that’s life, hey. Things change all the time. 

So yeah, that’s really all I have to say about that, and I guess in the end I have to thank this guy for giving me inspiration to write. Maybe not such a bad experience after all.